National Survivors of Homicide Victims Awareness Month
November 20th - December 20th
Approximately every 32.1 minutes, someone is murdered in the United States. With raising national
homicide rates, support for families impacted by violence and awareness of the impact of homicide in
our communities is needed now more than ever. November 20th marked the beginning of National
Survivors of Homicide Victims Awareness Month (SHVAM). Enacted in 2000, SHVAM offers an
opportunity to educate the public and policymakers about the effect that murder has on families
and communities, and uplift the peace-building efforts of survivors. SHVAM provides a dedicated
space around the holiday season for survivors to gather in community and celebrate and honor
their loved ones. Let's fight to bring awareness this month to the loved ones we have lost.
To find resources and support for survivors of homicide loss, reach out to these organizations:
Louis D. Brown Peace Institute - www.ldbpeaceinstitute.org
Homicide Survivors Inc. - www.homicidesurvivorsinc.org
Utah Homicide Survivors - www.utahhomicidesurvivors.org
Chicago Survivors - www.chicagosurvivors.org/
VictimConnect Resource Center - www.victimconnect.org
DC Victim Hotline - www.DCvictim.org
Justice for Homicide Victims - www.justiceforhomicidevictims.org
Crime Victims Treatment Center (NYC) - www.cvtcnyc.org
Break the Silence 5K Walk/Run
Saturday, September 10, 2022, Walk Begins at 10:00 AM
1805 Tilford Lane, Coeur d'Alene, Idaho,
SPAN of North Idaho is holding its annual in-person Break the Silence 5K walk, run, skip, (or however you roll) this Saturday, September 10, 2022! This walk is in remembrance of those lost to the completion of suicide and an effort to raise suicide awareness and prevention. On-site registration and check-in will open at 8:30 AM on the morning of the walk at the pavilion, and the walk will begin at 10:00 AM.
The annual "Break the Silence" Walk begins at the beautiful Riverstone Park (1805 Tilford Lane),
nestled in the Village at Riverstone in Coeur d'Alene, Idaho. Walkers will start at Riverstone Park/Centennial Trail junction and travel along the beautiful Centennial Trail connecting to the Prairie Trail. The "Break the Silence Loop" sign at the halfway point of the walk will signify it is time to return
to Riverstone Park, where light snacks & entertainment will be waiting. A water station will also be available at the halfway point. Enjoy the music provided by local DJ Alejandro, and visit the park's
many community resource provider tables. (Lots of free swag!!) Suicide survivor resource information
and crisis intervention information will be available.
All proceeds and donations from this event go to further suicide prevention efforts and provide
community resources, education, training, and suicide loss support within the community.
Register to walk at: https://tinyurl.com/SPANBreakSilence
Let Go Of Your Guilt After Suicide Loss FREE 5 Day Support Series
Starting Monday, June 20, host Caro Brookings will be diving into her 3-part framework, where she combine
all of her knowledge and experience, which she has used to support hundreds of other suicide loss survivors
to release their guilt and find joy again. This isn’t a typical support series, where you just get some fluff
and information about what might work. Everything she shares with you is proven to work through scientific research and even brain scans. Remember that time doesn’t heal all wounds. If you stay with her for the
entire 5 days, you WILL take action as we go along, and you will walk away with your own personalized
plan of what you can do to find peace beyond our 5 days together. You will discover the #1 reason you
haven’t found inner peace. You will learn Caro's exact steps that helped her to let go of her guilt after
losing her Mum to suicide, and how to live a joyful life and not just survive.
Register at https://support.suicidebereavementcoaching.com/supportseries
Survivors of Suicide Loss Support Group - Boise, Idaho
2nd Thursday of the month from 7:00 to 9:00 PM MDT
717 N. 11th Street, Boise, Idaho 83702
The group meets continuously throughout the year at First United Methodist Church
(Cathedral of the Rockies), in the Bishop's Lounge at 717 N. 11th Street, Boise, Idaho 83702.
Meetings are held in person on the 2nd Thursday of the month from 7:00 to 9:00 PM MST.
Next meeting is on May 12, 2022.
Group Facilitators: Kirby or Susan Orme, (208) 342-2139, email@example.com
FREE Online Summit: Healing After Suicide Loss: How To Let Go Of Your Guilt,Find Peace And Move Forward One Day At A Time: May 2 - 6, 2022Read Now
FREE Online Summit: Healing After Suicide Loss: How To Let Go Of Your Guilt,
Find Peace And Move Forward One Day At A Time: May 2 - 6, 2022
Join host, and suicide bereavement coach, Caro Brookings, and these featured speakers:
Carey Conley & Laurel Wilson - Authors and Vision Experts
Jill Cowan - Co-Founder of Healing To The Max
Kelli Nielsen - Founder of The Grief Guru
Lisa K Boehm - Author
Marianne Gouveia - Founder of EricsHouse
Melissa Bottorff-Arey - Podcast Host and Author
Rita Schulte - Licensed Professional Board Certified Counselor
Sara J. Cobb - Founder of My Grief Connection
Tracy Oeser - Founder of Journey Thru Grief
Do you feel overwhelming guilt about the suicide of your loved one because you should have
done “this” and you could have done “that”? Do you keep thinking about why your loved one took
their life? Or maybe you knew your loved one was struggling and you were still unable to save them?
You are not alone, and you do not have to suffer in silence. If you have been longing to let go of
your guilt after losing your loved one to suicide…then you should sign up for the Healing After
Suicide Loss interview series. My friend Caro Brookings has brought together 20+ top experts, authors and support providers from the suicide grief and loss space for this free interview series on how to
let go of your guilt, find peace and move forward one day at a time. When your loved one has died
by suicide, you don’t have the time or the energy to scour the internet and find some of the
fantastic resources that are out there available to you.
Maybe you have tried some advice that you’ve heard somewhere and you felt a little better for
a while, only to be back at square one the next day. So you sit there alone, feeling sad and anxious,
and you wonder if you will ever feel happy again. Here’s what I believe: We don’t move on after
suicide loss, but you can move forward if you work through your grief. Because time alone doesn’t
heal all wounds - it’s important what you do with your time. You should know it is possible for you
too to let go of your guilt and find peace. You just need to know the right steps to take. That’s why
I am so grateful for the Healing After Suicide Loss interview series. It’s 5 days of tried and tested advice and encouragement from top experts from around the world to help YOU move forward with your life.
It’s free, but you have to save your seat to get access. Be sure to catch my session on May 2nd!
Claim your ticket to the online event at: https://interviews.healingaftersuicideloss.org/sara
Let's (NOT) Talk About It Podcast - Season 2, Episode 6
Left Behind: A Story of Murder Suicide
Sara Cobb is, unfortunately, no stranger to death and grief. Her oldest brother, Stephen, died as a child
when he climbed up a power pole. He was electrocuted while his younger brother, Skyler, helplessly
watched. Skyler was never the same after that. Decades later, Sara received a call that Skyler and his
fiancée had died in a murder-suicide. This unimaginable tragedy led Sara to learn about grief counseling,
mental health and trauma in order to help others. She formed the first-ever support group for
murder-suicide survivors -- a club no one wants to belong to, as she puts it.
The episode is available to listen to on Apple Podcasts and Spotify
Follow Let's (NOT) Talk About It on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/LNTalkaboutit
Visit the Let's (NOT) Talk About It website at: https://letsnottalkaboutit.com/
It was such an honor and joy for our founder, Sara Cobb, to be a recent guest on the
"The Resilience of Grieving Podcast" with host Melo Garcia of After Chloe
Melo and Sara had a heartfelt conversation about grief, faith, family, and love. Sara shared about the
traumatic losses of her two older brothers and how her grief drove her to launch My Grief Connection and
the only known support group specifically for murder-suicide loss survivors in the US.
The episode is now live and available to listen to on Apple Podcasts and Spotify,
in time for the end of Suicide Prevention & Awareness month.
They spoke about some sensitive topics include the death of a child, murder-suicide loss,
and trauma, so please use your discretion about whether or not to listen.
Follow After Chloe on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/AfterChloe
Visit the After Chloe website at: https://afterchloe.com/
3rd Annual Strength 2 Thrive Walkathon Supports the Idaho Suicide Prevention Hotline
Nampa, Idaho – The 3rd Annual Strength 2 Thrive Suicide Prevention Walkathon will kick off promptly at 8:00 PM on September 11, 2021, with general festivities and team set-up at 7:00 PM at Columbia High School in Nampa, Idaho. (301 S. Happy Valley Road). All ages are welcome to come for a few hours or to stay all night long!
Idaho is consistently ranked in the top 10 states for suicide deaths every year. If ever there was a time to focus on suicide prevention, it is now! Amid the COVID-19 pandemic, mental health needs are escalating drastically. During the second quarter of 2021, which ended in June, the Idaho Suicide Prevention Hotline received 49% more calls than it did in the second quarter of 2020. This number is a significant increase in those recognizing that they are struggling and need support. Thankfully, in Idaho, we are committed as a community to stand by those who are struggling.
In September, during National Suicide Prevention Month, Strength 2 Thrive provides space for the community to come together in solidarity and support with those suffering from suicidal thoughts or the grief from the loss of a loved one to suicide. The event has raised nearly $70,000 for the Idaho Suicide Prevention Hotline in the previous two years.
The walkathon is an uplifting community gathering intended to raise awareness around suicide, offer support for those suffering from suicidal thoughts or attempts, and comfort to those grieving the loss of a loved one to suicide.
There will be live local music and speakers throughout the night, a memorial garden of remembrance, and food trucks serving refreshments. During this family-friendly, outdoor event, folks of all ages will walk around the track during the hours that suicide rates are at their highest, showing their emotional support for those who are suffering.
Donations are tax-deductible and will benefit the Idaho Suicide Prevention Hotline, helping to save lives!
Register to walk and raise funds, or donate to support others who are walking, at www.strength2thrive.org. For questions or more information, email Jennifer Haagenson at firstname.lastname@example.org.
If you missed my interview with Carolin Brookings on the Healing After Suicide Loss series, you can now watch it
on my YouTube Channel! While you are there, be sure to subscribe to be alerted when new videos are added!
I'd love to know what your main takeaways from the interview are. Drop them in the comments below!
2021 Healing After Suicide Loss Interview Series, hosted by Carolin Brookings, with Sara J. Cobb
Sara J. Cobb – founder of My Grief Connection and murder-suicide loss survivor. Sara’s passion and advocacy
for grief and mental health education grew from a combination of her interests, strengths, and life experiences.
She was called to connect fellow grievers with resources for healing after her own trauma of loss, following
the tragic deaths of her two older brothers, 43 years apart – one by a freak accident and one in a murder-suicide.
She finds meaning by sharing her story of mending from the wounds of sibling and suicide bereavement
and guiding others toward tools and resources that offer hope and healing after loss.
Here’s what you can expect from Sara’s interview…Supporting Survivors After Murder-Suicide Loss.
- Sara shares what it was like to lose her brother in a murder-suicide
- Find out about the ways in which murder-suicide loss survivors can get support
- Sara talks about the support group for murder-suicide loss survivors that she is co-leading
To learn more about Sara and My Grief Connection, visit www.mygriefconnection.org.
Meet-Up for Survivors of Murder-Suicide Loss
You are not alone. After murder-suicide loss survivors may feel isolated and stigmatized. This peer-led group was founded to provide hope and collectively support each other through this rare type of loss which, unfortunately, is an everyday occurrence in the United States. They welcome
all survivors of murder-suicide loss, regardless of their relationship to those
who died. They emphasize welcoming all kinds of survivors of this type of loss
as they understand, for many people, you cannot “choose sides.” The loss of multiple people after this type of suicide loss is incredibly complex to navigate. Survivors include, but are not limited to, the following circumstances: sibling and/or step-sibling loss, parental and/or step-parental loss, child or step-child loss, spouse, ex-spouse, partner or ex-partner loss, in-law loss, friend loss, witnesses of murder-suicide with or without direct connections to the victim and/or perpetrator, and attempted murder-suicide survivors. This peer led
group is a hybrid traditional support group and action group.
They welcome those interested in either, or both. Their 90 minute format
is conveniently divided to accommodate attendees with interests in
traditional support and/or advocacy.
Brittany Noble McCarthy and Sara Cobb are survivors of murder-suicide loss and the co-founders of this unique support network which launched in 2020 and today has connected survivors across the country.
The group meets every other Friday via Zoom at 5:00 PM PST/8:00 PM EST.
Contact Brittany at email@example.com or
Sara at firstname.lastname@example.org if you would like more information. They ask all attendees to complete an initial phone or video
call with one of the group leaders to ensure the environment is a good fit
and to ensure the safety and privacy of all group members.
Prerequisites for group participation:
- Must be 18 years of age or older
- Must be currently in professional counseling/therapy, actively
seeking professional counseling/therapy, or have a willingness to
professional counseling/therapy in the future
- Must be willing to share contact information with the group leads
for emergency use only
Check out the group profile at: https://grief.com/grief-support-group-directory/
FREE Healing After Suicide Loss Masterclass Series
July 26 - August 8, 2021
If you want to finally heal after losing your loved one to suicide and move forward with your life, then you
should sign up for the Healing After Suicide Loss interview series. My friend Caro Brookings handpicked 25+
top experts, authors and support providers from the suicide grief and loss space for this free interview series
on how to find peace, make life liveable again and move forward one day at a time. I am so grateful to be part
of this FREE 14-day interview series, and I can’t wait to share my wisdom with you!
Healing After Suicide Loss starts on July 26. Don’t miss out!
Register to save your seat at: https://interviewseries.healingaftersuicideloss.org/sara
Speaking of Grief Facebook Live Series
My Grief Connection founder, Sara Cobb, will be LIVE on the
Speaking of Grief: Grief Support Facebook page on June 3, 2021 at 8:00PM EST, with Nancy Green, for Part 3 of a 4 part series exploring childhood
trauma, sibling loss and murder-suicide.
Due to mature subject matter, viewer discretion is advised.
If you miss it, don't worry you can watch all parts of the series in the
replay on the Facebook page.
Join us on Facebook at: facebook.com/speakingofgrief
Speaking of Grief Facebook Live Series: Part 2 of 4
My Grief Connection founder, Sara Cobb, will be LIVE on the Speaking of Grief:
Grief Support Facebook page on May 18th at 8:00PM EST, with Nancy Green,
for Part 2 of a 4 part series exploring childhood trauma, sibling loss and murder-suicide.
Due to mature subject matter, viewer discretion is advised. If you miss it,
don't worry you can watch all parts of the series in the replay on the Facebook page.
Join us on Facebook at: facebook.com/speakingofgrief
Survivors of Murder-Suicide Loss Share How You Can Help Support
Check out the terrific new post on Brittany Noble McCarthy's blog,
"Survivors of Murder-Suicide Loss Share How You Can Help Support," at
Brittany Noble McCarthy is a writer and advocate for two largely misunderstood areas: the life of military
families and survivors of murder-suicide loss. In addition to pieces published with the Tragedy Assistance
Program for Survivors (TAPS) and The Kentucky Derby Museum. Brittany is the co-founder of a
murder-suicide loss support group, along with fellow survivor My Grief Connection founder Sara J. Cobb,
and has connected with survivors across the country. She holds a Master’s Degree in Public Communication,
and is a certified Peer Mentor with TAPS. Brittany has participated in numerous grief and suicide
workshops with TAPS and the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. She has also connected
with leading researchers in the field of suicidology and community violence.
This new post was co-written by several murder-suicide loss survivors, including Brittany & Sara,
with the intent of helping educate those in survivors’ support systems. In it, they share what would
have been most helpful – and what was not helpful – after their initial loss. They have joined in a
single voice that they hope reflects anyone who has experienced the tragic loss of a loved one to
murder-suicide or any sensationalized, traumatic loss. They cannot and do not speak for all survivors,
but if you are a survivor of murder-suicide loss, they hope you know you are not alone.
If you are a survivor of murder-suicide loss and are interested in connecting with other survivors for
support and/or direction to resources, please reach out to either Brittany or Sara via email for
information about their Survivors of Murder-Suicide Loss Virtual Support Group. This private support
group meets twice monthly via Zoom to share our stories, encourage and support one another.
Sara J. Cobb
Founder, My Grief Connection
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