National Survivors of Homicide Victims Awareness Month
November 20th - December 20th
Approximately every 32.1 minutes, someone is murdered in the United States. With raising national
homicide rates, support for families impacted by violence and awareness of the impact of homicide in
our communities is needed now more than ever. November 20th marked the beginning of National
Survivors of Homicide Victims Awareness Month (SHVAM). Enacted in 2000, SHVAM offers an
opportunity to educate the public and policymakers about the effect that murder has on families
and communities, and uplift the peace-building efforts of survivors. SHVAM provides a dedicated
space around the holiday season for survivors to gather in community and celebrate and honor
their loved ones. Let's fight to bring awareness this month to the loved ones we have lost.
To find resources and support for survivors of homicide loss, reach out to these organizations:
Louis D. Brown Peace Institute - www.ldbpeaceinstitute.org
Homicide Survivors Inc. - www.homicidesurvivorsinc.org
Utah Homicide Survivors - www.utahhomicidesurvivors.org
Chicago Survivors - www.chicagosurvivors.org/
VictimConnect Resource Center - www.victimconnect.org
DC Victim Hotline - www.DCvictim.org
Justice for Homicide Victims - www.justiceforhomicidevictims.org
Crime Victims Treatment Center (NYC) - www.cvtcnyc.org
Losing a Child to Fentanyl Murder/Overdose: Tips and Tools For Grieving Your Child Due to Overdose
Wednesday, July 27th, at 7:00 PM CST
Join Kelli Neilsen, The Grief Guru, for a FREE webinar, "Losing a Child to Fentanyl Murder/Overdose."
Connect with other parents and learn powerful tools for your recovery!
- Learn from people who have experienced the same loss
- Move from reactive to proactive in your grief recovery
- Learn the "how to's" of grieving that can help to accelerate your recovery
After registering, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the meeting.
Register at the link in bio at: https://app.thegriefguru.com/fentanyl-event-registration-page
Let's (NOT) Talk About It Podcast - Season 2, Episode 6
Left Behind: A Story of Murder Suicide
Sara Cobb is, unfortunately, no stranger to death and grief. Her oldest brother, Stephen, died as a child
when he climbed up a power pole. He was electrocuted while his younger brother, Skyler, helplessly
watched. Skyler was never the same after that. Decades later, Sara received a call that Skyler and his
fiancée had died in a murder-suicide. This unimaginable tragedy led Sara to learn about grief counseling,
mental health and trauma in order to help others. She formed the first-ever support group for
murder-suicide survivors -- a club no one wants to belong to, as she puts it.
The episode is available to listen to on Apple Podcasts and Spotify
Follow Let's (NOT) Talk About It on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/LNTalkaboutit
Visit the Let's (NOT) Talk About It website at: https://letsnottalkaboutit.com/
Meet-Up for Survivors of Murder-Suicide Loss
You are not alone. After murder-suicide loss survivors may feel isolated and stigmatized. This peer-led group was founded to provide hope and collectively support each other through this rare type of loss which, unfortunately, is an everyday occurrence in the United States. They welcome
all survivors of murder-suicide loss, regardless of their relationship to those
who died. They emphasize welcoming all kinds of survivors of this type of loss
as they understand, for many people, you cannot “choose sides.” The loss of multiple people after this type of suicide loss is incredibly complex to navigate. Survivors include, but are not limited to, the following circumstances: sibling and/or step-sibling loss, parental and/or step-parental loss, child or step-child loss, spouse, ex-spouse, partner or ex-partner loss, in-law loss, friend loss, witnesses of murder-suicide with or without direct connections to the victim and/or perpetrator, and attempted murder-suicide survivors. This peer led
group is a hybrid traditional support group and action group.
They welcome those interested in either, or both. Their 90 minute format
is conveniently divided to accommodate attendees with interests in
traditional support and/or advocacy.
Brittany Noble McCarthy and Sara Cobb are survivors of murder-suicide loss and the co-founders of this unique support network which launched in 2020 and today has connected survivors across the country.
The group meets every other Friday via Zoom at 5:00 PM PST/8:00 PM EST.
Contact Brittany at firstname.lastname@example.org or
Sara at email@example.com if you would like more information. They ask all attendees to complete an initial phone or video
call with one of the group leaders to ensure the environment is a good fit
and to ensure the safety and privacy of all group members.
Prerequisites for group participation:
- Must be 18 years of age or older
- Must be currently in professional counseling/therapy, actively
seeking professional counseling/therapy, or have a willingness to
professional counseling/therapy in the future
- Must be willing to share contact information with the group leads
for emergency use only
Check out the group profile at: https://grief.com/grief-support-group-directory/
Speaking of Grief Facebook Live Series
My Grief Connection founder, Sara Cobb, will be LIVE on the
Speaking of Grief: Grief Support Facebook page on June 3, 2021 at 8:00PM EST, with Nancy Green, for Part 3 of a 4 part series exploring childhood
trauma, sibling loss and murder-suicide.
Due to mature subject matter, viewer discretion is advised.
If you miss it, don't worry you can watch all parts of the series in the
replay on the Facebook page.
Join us on Facebook at: facebook.com/speakingofgrief
My Grief Connection founder, Sara Cobb, was honored to be interviewed for the Faith & Grief Podcast. In the episode Sara talks about starting mygriefconnection.org, a portal for finding grief resources online and in your community, in 2019 after her own frustrating search for grief resources online. She started MGC while grieving the recent loss of her brother; both of her older brothers died over 40 years apart, one in an accident and another in a murder-suicide. Sara talks about how love and faith, and finding purpose in grief are helping on her grief journey.
*Trigger warning: death of a young child and discussion of murder-suicide loss are topics in this episode.
Listen to the episode at: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4tDjd7cqst2QWxOmatEf85
The Faith & Grief Podcast explores the intersection of faith & grief. Hosted by Shelley Craig,
program director for Faith & Grief. They hope the stories & interviews you hear provide some comfort &
hope on your grief journey. Faith & Grief Ministries is a non-profit that provides grief support
programs across the country in-person and online. Learn more at faithandgrief.org
US National Day of Remembrance for Murder Victims
Friday, September 25, 2020
Tragically, each year an estimated 14,249 persons are murdered nationwide, a murder every 36.9 minutes.
Each day we miss and love those we've lost to violence, and stand heart-to-heart in solidarity with survivors. Please take a special, intentional moment on Friday, September 25th to remember and pay tribute
to all who have died by violence here in America, and around the world.
If you've had a loved one taken from you by a violent act and are missing them and holding them in your heart and memory please leave a comment with their name and something special about them.
"So long as we live, they too shall live and love for they are a part of us as we remember them." - Gates of Prayer
Sara J. Cobb
Founder, My Grief Connection
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Updated 01 December 2022
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