Losing a Child to Fentanyl Murder/Overdose: Tips and Tools For Grieving Your Child Due to Overdose
Wednesday, July 27th, at 7:00 PM CST
Join Kelli Neilsen, The Grief Guru, for a FREE webinar, "Losing a Child to Fentanyl Murder/Overdose."
Connect with other parents and learn powerful tools for your recovery!
- Learn from people who have experienced the same loss
- Move from reactive to proactive in your grief recovery
- Learn the "how to's" of grieving that can help to accelerate your recovery
After registering, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the meeting.
Register at the link in bio at: https://app.thegriefguru.com/fentanyl-event-registration-page
Do People Hide Their Grief Over Overdose-Related Deaths Because of Addiction-Related Stigmas?Read Now
Do People Hide Their Grief Over Overdose-Related Deaths Because of Addiction-Related Stigmas?
Drug addiction is a severe health danger that can put people at a high risk of many health issues. Sadly, many individuals die from overdoses every year, and their loved ones may struggle to understand this situation. Even worse, stigmas on addiction may make this mourning process and treatments such as rehab for mental illness harder to process appropriately.
Addiction-Related Stigmas Exist
Stigmas can be tough to fight because they are often so ingrained in culture and how people perceive the world. For example, stigmas about addiction – and other mental health illnesses – can paint a damaging picture. The idea that a person with an addiction is "weak" or "immoral" is widespread, and so is the idea that they "deserve" to suffer from addiction.
These stigmas are a real issue because they create a feeling of otherness to those with an addiction. This scenario strips them of their humanity and can make it harder for people to feel sympathy for them. Unfortunately, these stigmas can affect the loved ones of a person who has an addiction and make that individual's overdose death harder to mourn or accept.
Whether that loved one feels unable to mourn due to stigmas placed on the situation by others or by themselves is irrelevant – a stigma is a stigma. These feelings make it harder for a person to mourn a loved one. Instead of healing, they might face a challenging journey that may affect their recovery and cause a high level of emotional suffering that refuses to go away.
Why People Hide Grief
Many people hide grief over a loved one's death, an emotional reaction that is understandable but ultimately unhealthy. The reasons for this behavior can be quite complex, particularly if an individual experienced conflict with the person who passed. Overdose deaths might make a person's struggles with mourning even more difficult.
First of all, a person might disown a loved one with an addiction and may not recognize them in their life. Or, loved ones might be mourning a person with an addiction before they die because their addiction has changed the person and their lives so drastically. An individual may feel shame from others in their community and deal with their shame by hiding their mourning and depression.
But unprocessed emotions can challenge a person, making it difficult for them to move on from a loss. Even though they don't publicly – or even personally – admit to their grief, it exists. Left to fester, negative emotions such as grief can worsen and cause more damaging emotional health issues. Therefore, it is essential to fight addiction stigmas and process death properly.
Ways to Fight Stigma
Fighting the stigma against addiction starts by understanding your emotions. Sometimes people do not realize that they feel stigmas or behave in ways that may upset or damage their loved ones. For instance, individuals may use language that is very negative towards addiction and people with this disease, which may affect how they think about it.
This type of language includes terms such as addict, junkie, user, or drunk. These terms are harmful and can create a stigma in a person's mind. The terms put the disease before the person by defining them by it. As a result, those who use these terms reinforce the mistaken belief that a person with addiction chooses to be addicted, worsening their stigma.
Instead, it is crucial to understand that addiction is a disease, one that requires professional rehab help to combat. People do not choose to be addicted and they aren’t solely defined by their addictions. They are people who also have addictions to drugs or alcohol, not addicts, junkies, or drunks.
Accepting these distinctions can make it easier for a person to grieve their loved ones and adequately mourn them. Remember – mourning is an essential part of recovery after death, and removing addiction stigmas may allow a person to accept death and avoid hiding their emotions.
Ways You Can Help
If someone is suffering from grief due to the overdose death of a loved one, you could suggest that they talk with a therapist or another professional. By talking with therapists, people can explore and express their feelings without judgement. Therapists can help people acknowledge their grief while helping them navigate their new lives without their loved ones. Support groups can also provide assistance. Groups such as Grief Recovery After a Substance Passing (GRASP) include members who have suffered similar losses. GRASP notes that people sometimes treat addiction-related deaths differently, so it “was created to offer understanding, compassion, and support for those who have lost someone they love through addiction and overdose.”
There are grief support groups in specific geographic areas and ones that allow people to meet virtually or use online services to share and find information. The groups provide support and let people know that they’re not alone. They remind people that others have had similar experiences and are willing to help.
Assistance can also come in other forms. Instead of asking a grieving person what you can do, do something. You can:
Just talking can also provide assistance. People might be worried that grieving people don’t want to talk about their loved ones, but the opposite is often true. By sharing stories and memories about their loved one, you allow people to discuss their grief and what their loved one meant to them.
By helping people take control of their emotional health, you give them a better chance to be happy and healthy. Just as importantly, they can give their loved ones the love and attention they need so they can also mourn and address their emotions.
Author bio: Patrick Bailey is a professional writer mainly in the fields of mental health, addiction, and living in recovery. He attempts to stay on top of the latest news in the addiction and the mental health world and enjoys writing about these topics to break the stigma associated with them.
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Suicide Survivor Grief - Life After LossOnline Event Hosted By EricsHouse.orgRead Now
Suicide Survivor Grief - Life After Loss
Online Event Hosted By EricsHouse.org
Join Guest Speaker Jill McMahon, LPC and Board Member at EricsHouse,
and Loss Survivor Marianne Gouveia (Eric’s Mom) on
Monday, May 18, 2020, at 5:30 PM (PST)
for a candid discussion of suicide loss and what the healing journey
looks likes from the perspective of a counselor who is an expert in suicide
loss and trauma, and from a mother who lost a son to suicide after a long
struggle with addiction. You will learn how surviving a suicide loss is
possible, how healthy approaches to stigma and be used,
and ways to help yourself with healing along the way.
THERE IS NO CHARGE FOR THIS EVENT.
Register at: https://www.ericshouse.org/events/
Mental Health 101: Breaking Addiction and Codependency
Thursday, March 5, 2020 from 6:30 pm - 8:00 pm
Nampa Public Library, 215 12th Ave. S., Nampa, Idaho 83651
Join licensed professional counselor, Rebekah Rene Stearns, MA, LPC, of Nurturing Hope & Healing Counseling, LLC
as she teaches us about Breaking Addiction and Codependency on Thursday, March 5th from 6:30-8 pm
in Multipurpose Room B at the Nampa Public Library
Learn to help the addict in your life without becoming codependent, enabling unwanted behavior(s) or being taken advantage.Learn to identify the characteristics of the codependent and how to truly help an addict.
For more info on this and other local mental health and/or grief related events, visit the
"Events" tab at www.mygriefconnection.org
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